Morning Musings – My self worth & identity is not tied to my ability to procreate


I am a human being, yet many times I am made to feel like I am nothing more than a meat bag, an incubator or an easy bake oven waiting to be used. As if my whole identity is tied in with my ability to procreate. If I do want kids then I surely must not care about my career. If I don’t want kids then I must be selfish.

I don’t want to be told what to do. I know what’s best for me, or even if I don’t, I will figure it out. I really don’t need opinions on what I should or shouldn’t do.
If you have ever told a woman what she should or shouldn’t do with her body or how she should live her life. FUCK YOU.

If a woman decides to have children she shouldn’t be expected to put her career on hold. If she decides not to, don’t judge her and ask her crap like, “what will you do when you are old?” Gee, I don’t know, get a lot of cats, train them to be ninja warriors and set them after you for asking me dumbass questions and wasting my time?

Why do we only ask women about how long of a mat leave they are going to take? Why do we badger them with questions about their offspring? Why not men? Ask them how long of a pat leave they are going to take instead. Why should a woman be solely responsible for taking care of a child that two people helped create? Because it is her lot in life? FUCK YOU.

Why do we suddenly impose certain stereotypes on women as soon as they become pregnant. CHILL OUT, they are fucking pregnant not dead.

Why do we constantly pressure women into having families. The clock is ticking… TICK TOCK. TICK TOCK. Freeze your eggs, do this, do that… WHY? Has it ever occurred to you that some of us might not want to?

Why do we view pregnant women as JUST that… pregnant and nothing else? She hustled before she was pregnant, what makes you think her career won’t be important to her once she gives birth. Oh because she will fall in love with the child, realize she doesn’t want to do anything with her life except stare at her kid 24/7? I suppose some people do want to be stay at home moms but not all. So FUCK YOU for assuming that everyone is the same.

Why do we label women who choose not to have kids as selfish or sad? WHY? Why have you taken it upon yourself to morally police them?

But wait, you are a woman, it is your lot in life to first go through 9 months of being an incubator and then give up everything. Oh you know because that’s what nature intended and because your great great great grandmother was a housewife, you should do the same cause women obviously can’t have it all. DUH. We shouldn’t get any ideas in our pretty little heads 🙂

Even if you don’t want kids, surely you must want to get married and be in the kitchen, because that’s your rightful place!

STOP FUCKING TELLING WOMEN WHAT TO DO. If they want to have children let them, if they don’t want to then let them as well. Bottom line mind your own fucking business.

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