Lies.
They never do get you anywhere, now do they? We all lie from time to time. Don’t even bother denying it. You know you have. Heck, I know I have.
None of us are perfect but there is a line that shouldn’t be crossed, people who shouldn’t be hurt and things that shouldn’t be said or done.
When you claim to love someone, why lie?
You are sitting in a cafe, with your head in your hands, the cold wind sends chills up and down your spine. You shiver but the storm that is raging inside you renders you motionless, so much so that you do not even want to move to a warmer spot.
You sit and you wonder. Why are they lying to you? Is it necessary?
You start to question yourself. Do I intimidate him? Why does he feel the need to lie to me? All I ever did was to love him. Is that such a bad thing? You sit and wonder and that’s precisely what you have been doing for the past few months.
Every time you muster up the courage to call him out on his lies, something gets in the way. Maybe it’s your need to be loved or maybe you are just plain stupid, you can’t decide which.
All you know is that you love him and that you are afraid. So very afraid.
Afraid to lose him. Afraid that no one will care. Afraid that everything will cease to make sense.
Afraid. Yes, that’s what you are. Why though?
Ria In The City 
NEVER question yourself. ALWAYS go with your gut. Fears are irrational and will only bring you down. Believe in yourself. YOUR worth. YOUR values.
Once that’s all established and firmly planted in your CORE, no lie will uproot you ever again.
Go rock this.
Believe it or not, I am going to. Thanks for the words of advice Case P! You are awesome!
I’d guess the lies have more to do with the other person’s issues than anything concerning you. Lies are usually told to ourselves first.
spot on!
Some people are habitual liars. Best to avoid getting too close to them if possible. I think that’s a difficult habit for people to break. In fact, is it even a ‘habit’ or an innate trait?
hmmm that’s something to think about now isn’t it? In fact, I think some people can’t even change, no matter how hard they try.
Some ‘habits’ are hard to break.
There are no excuses for lying now are there? 🙂 Lying always hurts more, me thinks.
Some people can’t help themselves, best to run.
but what if I see him changing?
Run. If he is changing he will change. He will run after you if he loves, respects and desires a relationship. Better to judge with distance between you.
I’m sorry, but if he lies about loving you, then you’ve lost him already dear. Best be off to find someone who won’t lie when then say it. Take care =]
The thing is, I don’t know if he does or not 😦 do I give people the benefit of the doubt?
I’m not sure. All you’ve got is your gut, and people around him that could also chime in. In general, do they feel he’s an honest guy? Or is he a “kidder,” or just a person more prone to lie than tell the truth?
Have you ever confronted him when you think he’s lying? What sort of reaction does he provide?
Again, I’m not sure, but if you have an inherent level of mistrust, then there’s most likely an issue of some sort – either with him or with yourself. I wish you all the best in figuring out what that issue is, and please, feel free to drop me a line to discuss further if you’d like.
Ria, think you know exactly what to do.
Hannah! What I know is we need to talk this weekend!!!!!!
Well, to be honest, I’ve never been in a relationship before but….. as the comment above me says it “you know what to do”. Don’t let this man hurt you no more
I love you patpatkay!!! ❤